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Gastqvalta · New Member Joined: 07 Feb 2009 Posts: 5 Location: Sweden

Quite a few years ago I became obsessed with a man in a band. He was from Sweden, and I from America. I was with someone at the time and we had a daughter. I pretty much E-stalked the man from Sweden. We started talking and I began making my plans. In 2006 I left my boyfriend while he was at work. Two weeks prior I told him I would always love him no matter what. I packed up my daughter and I and just left one night. I only called him the next day. He gave my daughter and I everything but the clothes on his back. For the next couple months I let him come over and take our daughter whenever he wanted. I continued acting like everything would be fine. I then lied to the police about my ex abusing me and our daughter and got an unfounded PFA. This was right before Christmas. I tried to get him thrown in jail for breaking the PFA even though he did no such thing. I lied to almost everyone I know and am still keeping up that lie today. Within four months of the PFA I had met, married, moved to Sweden with, and became pregnant with the other man's child. My ex has made many civil attempts to contact me and I just ignore him. He was a great father and I never had to work a day while we were together.

Should I do anything to correct this situation?

tracyred · Posted: Sat Feb 07, 2009 5:54 am Post subject:

are you kidding?

Gastqvalta · New Member Joined: 07 Feb 2009 Posts: 5 Location: Sweden

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tracyred · Posted: Sat Feb 07, 2009 6:45 am Post subject:

well, obviously you are looking for someone to tell you to smarten up. i am a Christian, so my opinion would be to repent, turn to the Lord, and follow His lead. you are married to the swedish guy, so making that work is a priority. also a top priority is to apologize (profusely) to your ex, and give him immediate and substantial access to his daughter. first though, have the restraining order lifted. meanwhile, don't know how that would work considering your big move. but try, somehow. And, you should tell the police you lied, and take whatever punishment comes with that like a grownup. in fact, you should tell EVERYONE you lied, and take your medicine. then, get into therapy with your daughter and try have whatever damage you've caused her repaired. a daughter needs her father. period.

i will be praying for you, and your daughter. if you are quite serious, you can certainly come out the other side okay, and so can she. you will both need healing though, and a relationship with The Most High would be the best starting point. get your butts to a (christian) church, and confess your sins, girl...you'll be a new woman, i promise!

remember, you asked for opinions!

Gastqvalta · New Member Joined: 07 Feb 2009 Posts: 5 Location: Sweden

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batlou · Senior Member Joined: 02 Apr 2008 Posts: 593

Holy He!!!!! I hope your kidding? The whole story sounds so crazy it's almost unbelievable. I agree that you priority should be to make the relationship your in now work. However, you cannot continue this lie. You should come clean on this entire charade if for no other reason than to show your daughter that what you have done is reprehensible. Taking your daughters Father away from her so that you could appease your own self centered desires? Reading that actually turned my stomach a little bit.

My advice, Own Up to your lies and seek counseling.